This is kind of a rambling post, so bear with me! It mostly consists of random thoughts all under the “love” category. But hopefully it makes y’all think:) If you want to read last year’s Valentine’s Day post, click here. (Although they are posting a bit later than me, you’ll be able to find Sarah’s here and Lauren’s here when they do post:)
What is love? Though it may seem surface, it’s actually quite a deep question. There are many generic and cliche answers commonly used: “God!” “trust” “strong feelings” “care and admiration” “sacrifice”. So many views and opinions are out there! But which are true?
I think it’s a combination of all those, but also more– much more. Love is why we exist. Without love there would be no marriage, no relationships, no sacrifice for others beyond ourselves, no God, no kindness, etc. Can you imagine our world without love?
I am honestly struggling to capture the full meaning of love. Because you simply can’t fit love into 500 words.– It’s an action, not just a spoken promise. Love just is. It can’t be forced, it can’t be undone. Complete and perfect love is unconditional. And, I am not talking about my love for cardigans and oxfords. I’m talking about love in the real and raw form.
Love is so beautiful. Its depth can’t be passed up by any other feeling. It can’t exactly be described, either. Yet, it happens to be the #1 craved feeling. Why? Because God created us to need love–to survive and depend on both being loved and giving love. We are not robots or animals. We are humans created by Him and also loved by Him. He made us to need love almost more than oxygen. He even saved us with His love.
You simply can’t “unlove” someone, not if it’s real. You have to make a conscious decision to put yourself before them before a love can be broken. It doesn’t become injured and fragile overnight. This goes for more than just couples.– This goes for friends and family, as well. Putting them first is needed for a love that is going to last!
Let’s take a friendship, for example. There’s no way a real friendship can be formed if all we are thinking about is ourselves and what we’re gonna get out of it. That’s just not how it works! We have to consider the needs of those around us– we aren’t the only ones with struggles! We don’t love someone–truly love someone–with the mindset of “I’m just in this for what I can get out if it.” Friendship isn’t an all-take and no-give thing; it’s actually a whole lot closer to the opposite.
Sacrifice and servant are two words that come to mind when I hear “love”. When you love someone, you sacrifice yourself to serve them when they need you. If they need prayer, you pray. If they need hugged, you hug them. If they need a listening ear, you listen. If they need a laugh, you send them some dumb gifs. (Not that I’ve done this before… haha) The point is, if they need you, be there!
It all boils down to one thing: love with your life. What better way to love someone than with the most precious gift that God has given you? Loving with our lives does not mean “love them the rest of you life”. (Although that’s good too!) It means love with your life. Use your time, your energy, to love these around you like crazy! We only have so much time to give them. But you wanna know something? The more you give of your life, the bigger your life is! Why not take advantage of this?
And, for the record, Valentine’s Day isn’t about just couples. It’s simply about love. How can we love (the action, not the feeling) those around us a little more?