Me and a couple of my friends, Sarah and Lauren, have gotten together and started a group called, The Blondes with Blogs. We have decided to get together about once a month, pick a topic, and all share our personal opinions on it on each of our blogs. I am pretty excited about doing this! I love discussing controversial topics, so those months will be my favorite. I would also love to hear feedback on this, plus any topic suggestions you might have! You can find Lauren’s post here and Sarah’s here.😉
I am going to start this post by saying, I am not a feminist. There are pros to feminism, but only if your motives and heart are in the right place.
I am not against everything to do with feminism; I am so glad women who don’t have a provider can support themselves and/or their family. I am so glad all levels of education are available to all, no matter your gender. I am so glad women in America are able to vote and be considered equal to men. But, that is just the beginning of what feminists want.
To establish my opinion, I am going to go all the way back to the beginning of Creation and show God’s true purpose for male and female.
So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. Genesis 1:27 (ESV)
First of all, there is obviously a distinction between men and women (just had to throw that out there!). There is no such thing a born transgender, gay, or lesbian- just sayin’.
(20)And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; But for Adam there was not found an help meet for him. (22)And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. Genesis 2:20 and 22 (ESV)
Second, God created women for the man, to be a help meet unto him. Not the other way around. (sidetone: I recommend the book Preparing to Be a Help Meet to all young ladies!) We have been created to be man’s help meet; God gave us a special purpose. Men need women and women need men- neither are complete without the other. Yes, men and women are equal, but they were created differently. We are equal, but not the same. God did not create men and women with the same purpose. We have been designed for totally different roles- we shouldn’t try to force ourselves into a male role if we aren’t male, to state the obvious.
Man’s curse was to labor and work for their survival for the rest of their lives. (Genesis 3:17-19) They were created to provide for their families, so they are responsible for having a career that feeds their family. They were created to be breadwinners, so to speak. Woman’s curse was to experience pain in childbirth. (Genesis 3:16) I know and believe that when a woman/mother has a career when unnecessary, they are taking on both curses. My opinion is, that was not God’s plan! Although, I do believe, if it is necessary, God will give you the grace to bear both curses and will bless you for it. (I respect and love many people who believe differently, so I am not disregarding anyone’s opinion, just stating my own.😉)
But, I would have you know, that head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is man: and the head of Christ is God. 1 Corinthians 11:3 (ESV)
God has given men authority over their wives, as well. Women should be submitted to their husbands and their husbands need to be submitted to God and their spiritual authorities. Women were not created to lead or be the head of their family. I sure hope someday my husband feels comfortable putting his foot down and leading our family according to God’s will! I don’t ever want to be guilty of trying to override my husband in our family leadership. Women should never be the one to “wear the pants in family” (literally or figuratively!). It is the man’s job and responsibility to lead his wife and children, not the woman’s. God never intended for women to “rule to roost”. Men were meant to lead, so when a woman is charge of her husband, it’s warping God’s plan.
Nowadays, feminists are people who believe women should be able to have the same positions as men and physically do everything they do. (Generally, guys are stronger- we can’t do everything they can! That doesn’t make us less than, just different.) They go around, hating on men, trying to prove that girls can do everything men can, but better. Feminist women everywhere are training their daughters to disrespect the male population. They are teaching them that girls are somehow better than boys and should be held in a higher regard. I strongly disagree with this mindset! Yes, there are many things we can do that men can’t, but there are just as many things that men can do that we can’t. We were created to be different and to fulfill different roles, though we are equal. God would not have created both male and female if they were the same and had the same purpose and abilities.
God puts into 99.999% of females the desire to be a mother. Sometimes it shows very early on. This is why we, as females, loved playing dolls and house when we were younger. God has created us to be moms. It’s programmed into each and every female, whether they recognize/accept it or not. Honestly, it’s my heart’s desire to be a mom, and I want to be the very best mom I can be. Personally, I don’t believe I can accomplish that without being a stay-at-home mom. I want to be able to fully invest in my children’s lives, without having a career get in the way. There are many reasons why I believe this- mainly because I was incredibly blessed to have a stay-at-home mom for my entire childhood.
So, in conclusion, I don’t agree with feminists or the attitude behind their thoughts and beliefs. And, I am not writing this to bash anyone. It’s everyone’s choice what they do for their own family; I am not saying anyone is wrong, just expressing what I believe. Also, this is the second time I’ve written this. I had written around 900 words, straight from my heart, all I had to do was proofread it. Aaaand, about 600 of those perfect words decided to disappear- without being saved. I’m pretty sure that’s the definition of frustration.😂 So, y’all got Take Two.😜